In my last post, I mentioned being a survivor or a victim. But I didn’t clarify the difference. After a person experiences sexual assault, domestic abuse, or molestation, they will unconsciously classify themself as a survivor or a victim. As long as a person considers themself to be a victim, they will live in the shadow of the traumatic event. They will live in fear. They will feel worthless and ashamed. (corrected section) A person who considers themself to be a survivor, will go on to lead a healthy happy life. Instead of cowering in fear, they will walk with their head held high, confident and strong. Effectively putting the past behind them. We can’t predict who will be the target of such atrocities, but maybe we can help them learn to survive.
I knew of a young man who had been sexually assaulted to such a degree, that it took a year for his body to heal. His spirit never did. He committed suicide. If I would have walked up to him and said. “When you’re better, come train with me?” Would that have given him the courage to live? Could he have been a survivor and not a victim?
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